Socket Connected waiting for login sequence

Hey all,
Okay, this is driving me absolutely crazy.
I'm completely new to all this crap and don't know a thing. Here's what i have:
I obv have the smartftp client, i have cerberus server. I have a Zone alarm firewall, windows xp, and linksys router.
I've been trying for the last 2 days to connect internally just to see if i could do it. I tried to use my 4 number internal ip (X.X.X.X), and i have tried to use the normal 68.110..... ip, and the normal 192..... ip.
The closest i have come to getting in is the error shown in the subject, but ihave no idea what it means. I don't understand the setting up of the router and am somewhat frightened that i have opened up too much messing around w/ it. So anyone, please help. a little guide through all this crap would help a ton. Thanks,
Jason